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Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage governs Hebrew Yisraelites

Monday, December 17, 2012 @ 07:12 PM
posted by Bayadwa

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage governs Hebrew Yisraelites

This review of the Torah Laws of Moses concerning marriage such as …

  • Virgin (or Young Woman) in her Father’s House Laws
  • Betrothal Laws
  • Cheer up your wife Law
  • Sex in Marriage Laws
  • Divorce Law
  • Adultery Laws
  • Polygyny & Duty of Marriage Laws
  • Husbands Jealousy Law
  • Marriage for the Priests Laws
  • Duty of the Husbands Brother Law

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage:YOUNG WOMAN IN HER FATHER’S HOUSE

To marry a young woman their are special requirements.

  1. You must ask the father for permission to marry his daughter
  2. If she is a virgin & has never known a man, the father may require a dowry which is customary.
  3. If the a man “lays” with a virgin without asking the father for her hand in marriage.  He is required to volunteer to marry her & also pay a set amount of dowry for her.  The father has a right to refuse the request for marriage, but the dowry still has to be paid as a form of punishment for taking her without his permission. This dowry is a heavy fine to pay for not asking for marriage first.  Theses laws are in place to protect the young woman if a man deceives her to lay with him.

LAW IF A MAN LAYS WITH A WOMAN BEFORE ASKING THE FATHER FOR PERMISSION:

Exodus 22: 16-17
16And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.

Deuteronomy 22:28
28 If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;29 Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.
-This is the same law as in Exodus 22:16-17; In Deuteronomy the father approves the marriage & according to Deuternomy 22:18, the man may never put away the woman.  The father has the right to disapprove of the marriage according to Exodus 22:17 & the man still has to pay the dowry.  This law in Deuteronomy is sometimes mistaken for rape, but there are no words of “force”.  The term “they be found”, proves that they had a sexual relationship which was discovered.  Once discovered, the man must endow the young woman as his wife & pay the dowry.  If her father approves of the marriage. He may never put her away.

LAW IF A MAN ACCUSES HIS WIFE OF NOT BEING A VIRGIN (being told she was)

Deuteronomy 22:13 If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, 14 And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid: 15 Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel’s virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate:16 And the damsel’s father shall say unto the elders, I gave my daughter unto this man to wife, and he hateth her; 17 And, lo, he hath given occasions of speech against her, saying, I found not thy daughter a maid; and yet these are the tokens of my daughter’s virginity. And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city.

IF THE ACCUSATIONS OF HER VIRGINITY IS FALSE…

18 And the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him;19 And they shall amerce him in an hundred shekels of silver, and give them unto the father of the damsel, because he hath brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel: and she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days.

IF THE ACCUSATION OF HER VIRGINITY IS TRUE

20 But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: 21 Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father’s house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you.

 

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage: REJOICE WITH YOU NEW WIFE FOR A YEAR

Deuteronomy 24:5 When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken. – KJV

Deuteronomy 24:5 When a man has taken a new wife, let him not go out into the army nor let any matter  be imposed upon him. He shall be exempt one year for the sake of his home, to rejoice with his wife whom he has taken. – The Scriptures

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage: BETROTHAL

 

 

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage: SEX IN MARRIAGE

WASH YOURSELF & CLOTHES AFTER SEX

Leviticus15:16 And if any man’s seed of copulation go out from him, then he shall wash all his flesh in water, and be unclean until the even. 17 And every garment, and every skin, whereon is the seed of copulation, shall be washed with water, and be unclean until the even. 18 The woman also with whom man shall lie with seed of copulation, they shall both bathe themselves in water, and be unclean until the even.

 

PUT APART 7 DAYS BECAUSE OF ISSUE OF BLOOD (Period)

Leviticus15:19 And if a woman have an issue, and her issue in her flesh be blood, she shall be put apart seven days: and whosoever toucheth her shall be unclean until the even. 20 And every thing that she lieth upon in her separation shall be unclean: every thing also that she sitteth upon shall be unclean. 21 And whosoever toucheth her bed shall wash his clothes, and bathe himself in water, and be unclean until the even. 22 And whosoever toucheth any thing that she sat upon shall wash his clothes, and bathe himself in water, and be unclean until the even. 23 And if it be on her bed, or on any thing whereon she sitteth, when he toucheth it, he shall be unclean until the even.

 

15:24 And if any man lie with her at all, and her flowers be upon him, he shall be unclean seven days; and all the bed whereon he lieth shall be unclean. 25 And if a woman have an issue of her blood many days out of the time of her separation, or if it run beyond the time of her separation; all the days of the issue of her uncleanness shall be as the days of her separation: she shall be unclean. 26 Every bed whereon she lieth all the days of her issue shall be unto her as the bed of her separation: and whatsoever she sitteth upon shall be unclean, as the uncleanness of her separation. 27 And whosoever toucheth those things shall be unclean, and shall wash his clothes, and bathe himself in water, and be unclean until the even. 28 But if she be cleansed of her issue, then she shall number to herself seven days, and after that she shall be clean.

SEPARATE BECAUSE OF THE TABERNACLE THAT IS AMONG YOU

15:31 Thus shall ye separate the children of Israel from their uncleanness; that they die not in their uncleanness, when they defile my tabernacle that is among them. 15:32 This is the law of him that hath an issue, and of him whose seed goeth from him, and is defiled therewith;15:33 And of her that is sick of her flowers, and of him that hath an issue, of the man, and of the woman, and of him that lieth with her that is unclean.

40 DAYS OF PURIFYING AFTER A WOMAN HAS CONCEIVED A SON

Leviticus 12:1 And YHWH spake unto Moses, saying,2 Speak unto the children of Israel, saying, If a woman have conceived seed, and born a man child: then she shall be unclean seven days; according to the days of the separation for her infirmity shall she be unclean. 3 And in the eighth day the flesh of his foreskin shall be circumcised. 4 And she shall then continue in the blood of her purifying three and thirty days; she shall touch no hallowed thing, nor come into the sanctuary, until the days of her purifying be fulfilled.

80 DAYS OF PURIFYING AFTER A WOMAN CONCEIVES A DAUGHTER

Leviticus 12:5 But if she bear a maid child, then she shall be unclean two weeks, as in her separation: and she shall continue in the blood of her purifying threescore and six days.

At first glance, some may think that biblical instructions about childbirth are biased against women. At the birth of a male child, a woman was considered unclean for 7 days and continued in a state of purification for 33 days; following the birth of a female child, the mother was considered unclean for 14 days and her purification period was 66 days. (Leviticus 12:2–5) However, these instructions fit very well with modern scientific discoveries about childbirth and development and disease prevention. By declaring a woman who had just given birth unclean, the biblical health laws required whoever touched the new mother (especially the midwife) to wash and to avoid immediate contact with other people—a practice designed to prevent the spread of diseases such as childbirth fever, which claimed untold lives throughout history. It was not until the mid-1800s that an Austrian physician, Ignaz Philipp Semmelweis, recognized that the spread of childbirth fever could be prevented if birth attendants washed after a delivery—yet biblical health laws had promoted this practice almost 3,000 years earlier!

But there are even more benefits in these instructions. While a new mother was unclean (7–14 days), she was free from the duties of cooking and ordinary housework—giving her time to regain her strength after delivering a baby. During the purification period (33–66 days), she remained in semi-isolation, thus avoiding crowds and contact with disease germs that could harm her or her newborn child. She was not required to travel to a place of worship to make an offering until the end of her purification period. Since travel was often arduous, this gave a nursing mother time for her breast milk to come in, to establish a feeding routine and for the baby to build antibodies and gain strength. The longer period for female babies was not due to male chauvinistic bias. Even today, female babies often have lower birth weights and higher mortality rates, so this longer period at home with the mother was meant to give them a better start in life. – http://www.tomorrowsworld.org/magazines/2004/mar-apr/bible-health-laws

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WHY the difference of 40 days of purification for the birth of baby boys and 80 days of purification for baby girls?

 

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage: DIVORCE

Deuteronomy 24: 1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. 2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife. 3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; 4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before YHWH: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which YHWH thy Elohim giveth thee for an inheritance.

A MAN MAY NEVER A DIVORCE A WOMAN IF HE…

Takes her without asking her father’s permission first

Deuteronomy 22:28
28 If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;29 Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.
Falsely accuses her of not being a virgin
Deuteronomy 22:13 If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, 14 And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid…
18 And the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him;19 And they shall amerce him in an hundred shekels of silver, and give them unto the father of the damsel, because he hath brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel: and she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days.

 

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage: ADULTERY

Exodus 20:14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.

Deuteronomy 5:18 Neither shalt thou commit adultery.

Leviticus 18:20 Moreover thou shalt not lie carnally with thy neighbour’s wife, to defile thyself with her.

Leviticus19:20 And whosoever lieth carnally with a woman, that is a bondmaid, betrothed to an husband, and not at all redeemed, nor freedom given her; she shall be scourged; they shall not be put to death, because she was not free.

Deuteronomy 22:22 If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. 23 If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her; 24 Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbour’s wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you. 25 But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die. 26 But unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbour, and slayeth him, even so is this matter: 27 For he found her in the field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was none to save her.

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage: POLYGYANY & DUTIES OF MARRIAGE

“If he take him another wife; her food, her coverings, and her right of marriage, shall he not diminish.”

This term, “if” show that the man has the option to take another wife, but only under certain conditions.  He must be able to continue to…

  • provide food
  • provide clothing
  • sexual relations (right in marriage or duty of marriage)

Exodus 21:10 If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.11 And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money. – the Scriptures

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage: MARRYING A HEBREW SERVANT

Exodus 21:7 And if a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she shall not go out as the menservants do.8 If she please not her master, who hath betrothed her to himself, then shall he let her be redeemed: to sell her unto a strange nation he shall have no power, seeing he hath dealt deceitfully with her.

A MAN WHO GIVES HIS SON A HEBREW SERVANT TO BE HIS WIFE; MUST PERFORM THE DUTIES OF MARRIAGE or SHE IS TO BE SET FREE

9 And if he have betrothed her unto his son, he shall deal with her after the manner of daughters.10 If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.11 And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money.

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage: HUSBAND’S JEALOUSY

Numbers 5:12 Speak unto the children of Israel, and say unto them, If any man’s wife go aside, and commit a trespass against him,13 And a man lie with her carnally, and it be hid from the eyes of her husband, and be kept close, and she be defiled, and there be no witness against her, neither she be taken with the manner;14 And the spirit of jealousy come upon him, and he be jealous of his wife, and she be defiled: or if the spirit of jealousy come upon him, and he be jealous of his wife, and she be not defiled:15 Then shall the man bring his wife unto the priest, and he shall bring her offering for her, the tenth part of an ephah of barley meal; he shall pour no oil upon it, nor put frankincense thereon; for it is an offering of jealousy, an offering of memorial, bringing iniquity to remembrance.16 And the priest shall bring her near, and set her before YHWH:17 And the priest shall take set-apart water in an earthen vessel; and of the dust that is in the floor of the tabernacle the priest shall take, and put it into the water:18 And the priest shall set the woman before YHWH, and uncover the woman’s head, and put the offering of memorial in her hands, which is the jealousy offering: and the priest shall have in his hand the bitter water that causeth the curse: 19 And the priest shall charge her by an oath, and say unto the woman, If no man have lain with thee, and if thou hast not gone aside to uncleanness with another instead of thy husband, be thou free from this bitter water that causeth the curse:20 But if thou hast gone aside to another instead of thy husband, and if thou be defiled, and some man have lain with thee beside thine husband: 21 Then the priest shall charge the woman with an oath of cursing, and the priest shall say unto the woman, YHWH make thee a curse and an oath among thy people, when YHWH doth make thy thigh to rot, and thy belly to swell; 22 And this water that causeth the curse shall go into thy bowels, to make thy belly to swell, and thy thigh to rot: And the woman shall say, Amen, amen. 23 And the priest shall write these curses in a book, and he shall blot them out with the bitter water: 24 And he shall cause the woman to drink the bitter water that causeth the curse: and the water that causeth the curse shall enter into her, and become bitter. 25 Then the priest shall take the jealousy offering out of the woman’s hand, and shall wave the offering before YHWH, and offer it upon the altar: 26 And the priest shall take an handful of the offering, even the memorial thereof, and burn it upon the altar, and afterward shall cause the woman to drink the water. 27 And when he hath made her to drink the water, then it shall come to pass, that, if she be defiled, and have done trespass against her husband, that the water that causeth the curse shall enter into her, and become bitter, and her belly shall swell, and her thigh shall rot: and the woman shall be a curse among her people. 28 And if the woman be not defiled, but be clean; then she shall be free, and shall conceive seed. 29 This is the law of jealousies, when a wife goeth aside to another instead of her husband, and is defiled; 30 Or when the spirit of jealousy cometh upon him, and he be jealous over his wife, and shall set the woman before YHWH, and the priest shall execute upon her all this law. 31 Then shall the man be guiltless from iniquity, and this woman shall bear her iniquity.

 

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage: PRIEST HAVE SPECIAL LAWS FOR MARRIAGE

Leviticus 21:1, 7-10, 13-14

1 And YHWH said unto Moses, Speak unto the priests the sons of Aaron, and say unto them, …7They shall not take a wife that is a whore, or profane; neither shall they take a woman put away from her husband: for he is set-apart unto his Elohim. 8 Thou shalt sanctify him therefore; for he offereth the bread of thy Elohim: he shall be set-apart unto thee: for I YHWH, which sanctify you, am set-apart. 9 And the daughter of any priest, if she profane herself by playing the whore, she profaneth her father: she shall be burnt with fire. 10 And he that is the high priest among his brethren, upon whose head the anointing oil was poured, and that is consecrated to put on the garments, …13 And he shall take a wife in her virginity. 14 A widow, or a divorced woman, or profane, or an harlot, these shall he not take: but he shall take a virgin of his own people to wife.

 

Torah Laws of Moses Concerning Marriage: DUTY OF THE HUSBAND’S BROTHER

The wife of a dead man who is without a son (some bible’s say child, but in the Hebrew it’s son) will not be remarried to a stranger

Deuteronomy 25:5 If brethren dwell together, and one of them die, and have no son, the wife of the dead shall not marry without unto a stranger: her husband’s brother shall go in unto her, and take her to him to wife, and perform the duty of an husband’s brother unto her. 6 And it shall be, that the firstborn which she beareth shall succeed in the name of his brother which is dead, that his name be not put out of Israel. 7 And if the man like not to take his brother’s wife, then let his brother’s wife go up to the gate unto the elders, and say, My husband’s brother refuseth to raise up unto his brother a name in Israel, he will not perform the duty of my husband’s brother. 8 Then the elders of his city shall call him, and speak unto him: and if he stand to it, and say, I like not to take her; 9 Then shall his brother’s wife come unto him in the presence of the elders, and loose his shoe from off his foot, and spit in his face, and shall answer and say, So shall it be done unto that man that will not build up his brother’s house. 10 And his name shall be called in Israel, The house of him that hath his shoe loosed.

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